Trust in relationships

The greatest need we commonly share is the need for acceptance. However in order to be truly accepted by another person in a relationship, you need to be able to trust that person with the knowledge of who you really are - your dreams, your weaknesses, your failings and your strengths. You have to be brave enough to trust them with delicate information.

For many this gets harder and harder to do as they become older. It's a case of once bitten twice shy and so the more times we trust only to have that trust broken - the harder or even less likely it is that we'll trust again and take the same risk.

Unfortunately with relationships there is no substitute for trust and you must take the risk. What you can do however is lessen that risk through learning from your past mistakes and using your better judgement. There are definitely right and wrong people to trust when it comes to relationships and often it's a feeling which tells you which is which.

When you trust another person with intimate information about yourself it a way it gives them an increased power to be able to hurt you. This is the risk factor we must all accept in relationships and why it can be so difficult to recover from the ones which have failed in the past.

The best advice is to give yourself to the relationship is an even and mature way, you'll learn to feel when the relationship is deep enough for you to trust more and more and hopefully develop a wise sense of judgement when it comes to other people.

The rewards of a fulfilling relationship are enormous, it is worth the risk.